Home for The Holidays: 2 Big Reasons It’s Worth It
When it comes to the biggest family holidays of the year – Christmas and Thanksgiving – I usually break into a cold sweat at the mere thought of all the planning.
While most others are simply debating whether to roast or deep fry the turkey, I’m contemplating whether to stay home and make it somewhat easy for myself or to go visit with family and make it “challenging” (to say the least).
The challenge arises because my 11-year-old daughter, Julia, has life-threatening food allergies to milk, eggs and peanuts. My younger daughter, Emma, who is 9, also has a serious health concern – FPIES (food protein-induced enterocolitis syndrome), and poultry will trigger her symptoms.
This year, we opted for the challenging Thanksgiving. It’s not that I’m a glutton for extra work and precautions, but this year promised to be special. My mother, who lives about two hours away, was expecting my two younger brothers, one of whom is married with two girls and the other was coming home from his first semester at college.
Traveling to see the family seemed really important. Sure, staying home would have been a lot easier, but that would have meant keeping my girls away from their family – and I was not going to allow that to happen.
So there I was, faced with the major dilemma for families living with food allergies – how to protect our children from potentially harmful foods without depriving them of normal experiences, such as spending time with family during the holidays?
For this Thanksgiving trip go off with as few hitches as possible took serious planning and preparation. Not only did I cook and prepare all of the girls’ food ahead of time, but I also planned out how to transport the food.
But for allergy moms, when the going gets tough, the tough get busy! I called my mom in advance to go over what she would be serving for dinner, the ingredients she would be using and how we could designate space for the girls’ food in her refrigerator. I then planned my food preparation to mimic the meal my mom was preparing, as a safe version for the girls.
My goal was to have the girls eat the “same” meal that was being served, keeping it dairy- , egg- and peanut-free. I try my best to do this for special occasions, like birthday parties and weddings. I have found that trying to make my girls feel included rather than excluded helps with the social and emotional aspects of living with food allergies.
This is the continuing battle of parenting children with food allergies: to protect but not isolate.
Next: How we pulled it off