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 Post subject: Home schooling
PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 1:55 am 
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Hi,

I've recently been meeting a lot of parents who are choosing to home school their children for one reason or another, including the fact that schools/daycares, even with the best intentions, can present risks for kids with severe food/environmental allergies.

Due to the number and severity of my child's allergies, I had no other choice but to quit my job and to home school (financially **challenging** :shock: , but I'm learning SOOO much by hanging out with my kids all day :D ... priceless!).

I know there are several of you on this forum who home school. I'm wondering if there is a place at allergicliving.com where you share ideas etc. I tried to look for such a place but couldn't find any it (I'm not very tech savvy, so I apologize if it's right in front of me and I've missed it). I've explored non-allergy related forums for home schooling, but feel that we have special circumstances that inform how we teach/what materials we use etc.

If there is such a place on this site, can some one let me know how to find it, and if there isn't such a place, are there other home schoolers out there in allergicliving world who would find it useful to share stories/ideas?

Thanks!


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PostPosted: Wed Jan 23, 2008 7:15 am 
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We had a thread by a mother who was making a similar decision.
http://www.allergicliving.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=719
Is this what you are looking for?

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 24, 2008 12:23 am 
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Yes, just one tiny little thread... Homeschooling styles vary a lot from one family to another. Homeschooling support is often found in homeschooling forums :lol:

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8yo daughter - peanuts, nuts, mustard, eggs, sunflowers (new! ), oral allergy syndrome
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PostPosted: Fri Jan 25, 2008 12:51 am 
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Hello. I'm here too. I agree...homeschool styles vary a lot. Not all kids learn best the same way...so family decisions on homeschooling style tend to be based on what works for their individual children.

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DD age 9 1/2 -peanuts, nuts,
DD age 7 1/2 - milk, eggs, chicken, peanuts, treenuts, cats, dogs,
DS age 2 1/2
Husband- asthma, eggs, treenuts, fish, shellfish environmental
Self - penicillan, eurithromiacin, mild laytex allergy.


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PostPosted: Wed Jan 30, 2008 10:55 pm 
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Is anyone else meeting with hostility from anyone when you mention that you are thinking about homeschooling your child? I start to think that I can do this and then I talk to a friend ant I am told that this is the worst thing to do EVER and then I start to doubt my abilities. I am overwhelmed at the idea of putting my little girl in someone else's care though, she has so many allergies, I even forget a few when I rattle them off! Also, it sounds wonderful to me to be able to have AR finish her schooling for the day in a few hours and then be able to just have fun with friends or do some sort of activity.

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AR - allergic to peanuts, hazelnuts, tree nuts, raw milk, eggs, peas, legumes, sunflower seeds, sulphites, food colourings (some), mushrooms, honey, shellfish, dogs, cats, birds, licorice, pedialight, strawberries, kiwi.
husband - asthma
me- dust mites


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 12:36 am 
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I think for most people who consider homeschooling...being told it is the worst thing ever comes with the territory. People have VERY misconcieved ideas...and assume "homeschool" means sit at home alone and unhappy all day while mom plays teacher. Everyone seems to have an opinion, even though they are totally ignorant on every aspect of homeschooling. Yes, it's annoying.

The reality is my kids LOVE it and so do I. They are done their work in about 30 minutes, and we lead a busy life of skating, gymnastics, dance, homeschool activities and what ever else comes up. When we're not out and about they play games, ride bikes, go on the trampoline, do crafts, build stuff, play with friends and the list goes on and on. My oldest daughter has had many opportunities lately with dance, that she would not have the time for if she went to school. She goes to extra classes to practice for ballet and tap competitions coming up in the spring, and she has a good friend who also homeschools in her ballet group as well. The group is performing at our local winter festivals talent show next month! She LOVES dance and if she was in school all day...she would be too tired to follow this interest of hers.

Lately though, I think once people get to know us (or get used to the idea) they realize how truly fortunate my girls are, and how well they're doing in all areas (intellectual, physical, social, emotional). I have a few friends who are actually considering homeschooling their non-allergic kids as well ( they're not old enough for school yet).

Here's a cool video (no I don't know this girl), I just liked her video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7hRl3U0 ... re=related

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DD age 9 1/2 -peanuts, nuts,
DD age 7 1/2 - milk, eggs, chicken, peanuts, treenuts, cats, dogs,
DS age 2 1/2
Husband- asthma, eggs, treenuts, fish, shellfish environmental
Self - penicillan, eurithromiacin, mild laytex allergy.


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 7:54 am 
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I get hostile when total strangers tell me that I should home school my child. I am not the most patient person. I resent being told that the rest of the population should not have to deal with our issues.
I pay taxes and my child has a right to a public education. I am not qualified, I do not have the resources to do as good a job as I would like.
I admire those parents who do home-school. Parenting is a 24/7 job already and living with food allergies or any medical condition is stressfull enough. Add home schooling, lesson plans, home work, reporting to the ministry and tracking acheivements ('m sure there is more I haven't thought of)...I'm tired already! Add too that the fact that I would have to quit my job and my health plan is better than my husbands... :?
So yes, I resent feeling pushed into something that I feel is overwhelming when I'm already having anxiety attacks at the grocery store.
I think those of you who do home-school are amazing!

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 1:16 pm 
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My son is about to enter grade 1 in the fall of 2008. I've been petrified at the thought of sending him to the large public school in our neighbourhood (JK - grade 8 ). Because of his medical conditions (in addition to food allergies, he has other medical conditions. My husband and I have been considering 3 options: 1) home-schooling 2) sending him to the public school, but volunteering and bringing him home for meals 3) keeping him at the small Montessori school (100 children) where he is right now (it goes up to grade 3 with very small class sizes). We finally made our decision last week... we've decided to keep him at his current school. But I wanted to get in on this discussion because I think homeschooling is a very good option, and one that we had considered. We have been extremely fortunate to have a supportive and understanding school, but I realise not everyone can find this. We were lucky that our daughter had also gone there, so we were able to get to know the school very well before our son entered the school.

I find that having a medical condition such as food allergies means having to have a "thick skin" (at times). I'm a pretty sensitive person; however, when it comes to my child's health, I've found I am not bothered by what others think. No one has directly made a comment to me; however, if I've been at one of my child's sporting activiites, I have overheard a few times, other adults commenting on the inconviences and annoyances of having a child around (at school, or other) with food allergies. This is when having a "thick skin" is important! All we can do is protect our child to the best of our ability... if this means homeschooling, it simply cannot matter what others may think about this decision. They don't walk in our shoes and live the life we live every single day.

Susan, I agree with you that our children are entitled to an education in the public school. How dare people imply that our children should not be there! How do you respond to this? This is when having a "thick skin" comes in handy :wink:

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12 yr old son: allergic to peanuts, tree nuts, eggs, fish, sesame, sunflower, mustard, poppy seeds, green peas, some fruits, instructed to avoid all other legumes (except soy & green beans), pollen, cats, horses


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 2:57 pm 
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I get hostile when total strangers tell me that I should home school my child.


People :evil: . They tell you to homeschool when you choose public school...tell me homeschooling is a bad idea when I choose homeschool :roll: . It's like every stranger thinks they are entitled to tell us that we're doing the wrong thing...sheesh!

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DD age 9 1/2 -peanuts, nuts,
DD age 7 1/2 - milk, eggs, chicken, peanuts, treenuts, cats, dogs,
DS age 2 1/2
Husband- asthma, eggs, treenuts, fish, shellfish environmental
Self - penicillan, eurithromiacin, mild laytex allergy.


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 5:44 pm 
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Susan,
I've been thinking about your comments this afternoon...and quite frankly I'm confused.

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I get hostile when total strangers tell me that I should home school my child
So yes, I resent feeling pushed into something that I feel is overwhelming when I'm already having anxiety attacks at the grocery store.


Are you refering to me here??? That's certainly not my intention, or feelings on the matter at all.

It seems that every time a homeschool discussion pops up...it gets turned from a friendly sharing of homeschool information to a discussion about how allergic kids are entitled to attend public school.

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DD age 9 1/2 -peanuts, nuts,
DD age 7 1/2 - milk, eggs, chicken, peanuts, treenuts, cats, dogs,
DS age 2 1/2
Husband- asthma, eggs, treenuts, fish, shellfish environmental
Self - penicillan, eurithromiacin, mild laytex allergy.


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 7:57 pm 
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Saskmommyof two, I have never felt pressured by you to do anything that I didn't want to do. :)
I know that we have discussed homeschooling and I fully support your decision. I have admired you.
I think that I could almost feel your relief through the internet, when you finally made your decision and I have watched you get excited over the progress of your two girls.
I am sorry that you wasted any energy on negative thoughts about me in anyway.
I thought by now that you would know I would tell you if you upset me. :) (I'd send you a private message)

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Me: allergies to some tree that flowers in May
Cat: allergic to beef, pork and lamb


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 8:13 pm 
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Susan, I agree with you that our children are entitled to an education in the public school. How dare people imply that our children should not be there! How do you respond to this? This is when having a "thick skin" comes in handy


To answer this I must say that I was a child of the sixties and raised by a very liberal woman. I was raised to cherish universal health care and the right to a public education. I was raised to be aware that my grandmothers were initially not allowed to vote. I was raised to be aware that for girls, even in this day and age, in some cultures formal education is not guarunteed.

These things which we have are rights that have been earned by the women who came before us. I often feel that I owe it to them to honour these as gifts.

I made a vow to my daughter when she was just a few hours old that she would come to understand that the world belongs to her and she to it. That I would support her efforts to acheive anything that she wanted to become. I fully believe that she has the right to go as far in this life as she possibly can. Being born with a pre-disposition to food allergies will not hold her back anymore than being born a girl will.

Given that, when an aquantaince social or professional makes a remark about her right to a public education, my initial reaction is to start into a tirade but...I have learned (and I'm still learning) that I must curb my enthusiasm. I must pick my battles and channel my energies into those activities which will gain the results I wish to acheive. (see Karen, I'm learning)

I might use the situation as an opoourtunity to educate others. I might ignore the person. I concider the source, the possible damage, the energy out put required and make a decision based on all of this.

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 9:23 pm 
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Oh good. I was just confused.

I think we see the world differently, but hey different is okay.

I don't like the word "entitled". I don't like institutions telling me (or the population in general) that I need to hand over my money and let the government decide how to spend it...often on "programs" that are of no use to me or my allergic minority family. I value freedom and personal responsibilty. I'm not a fan of overboard government control aka socialism, communism, dictatorship, fascism. Many people (like my great-grandparents) came to Canada in search of a better life, and freedoms from the socialist governments that wanted to control them back in Europe. I need to respect the hardships my great-grandparents went through to raise their kids here...and not disregard the value of freedom for "perks" like social programs.

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DD age 9 1/2 -peanuts, nuts,
DD age 7 1/2 - milk, eggs, chicken, peanuts, treenuts, cats, dogs,
DS age 2 1/2
Husband- asthma, eggs, treenuts, fish, shellfish environmental
Self - penicillan, eurithromiacin, mild laytex allergy.


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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 10:50 pm 
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I like different perspectives.
I thought you knew that from our little discusion on natural paths.

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PostPosted: Thu Jan 31, 2008 11:34 pm 
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Oh yeah...I know we see things differently. For anyone not in the loop... I'm NOT a kook... my personal opinion on naturopathic medicine was that it promotes a healthy lifestyle as the most important factor in ones heath care management. I'm not against regular medicine or prescriptions when needed. "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure" is kind of my moto. Hey...I guess my philosophy on this too is personal responsibility...I'm starting to see a trend :) .

So...discussions about homeschooling are still welcome here, right? :wink: .

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DD age 9 1/2 -peanuts, nuts,
DD age 7 1/2 - milk, eggs, chicken, peanuts, treenuts, cats, dogs,
DS age 2 1/2
Husband- asthma, eggs, treenuts, fish, shellfish environmental
Self - penicillan, eurithromiacin, mild laytex allergy.


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